Low libido doesn’t just affect one person — it affects relationships, intimacy, and emotional connection. If your partner is experiencing a drop in sexual desire, it’s easy to feel rejected, confused, or even blame yourself. But the truth is, low libido is often linked to physical, hormonal, mental, or emotional factors — not a lack of love or attraction.
This article helps you understand what your partner is going through and how you can support them while protecting your own emotional wellbeing.
Why Does Low Libido Happen in Relationships?
Is It Really About Me?
Most of the time, no. Low libido can happen to anyone, regardless of how loving or strong the relationship is. The underlying reasons often include:
- Hormonal changes (menopause, birth control, testosterone decline)
- Stress, anxiety, or depression
- Medical conditions like PCOS, erectile dysfunction, or thyroid issues
- Medications such as antidepressants or antihistamines
- Relationship conflicts or emotional disconnection
- Fatigue and burnout from work or parenting
Understanding the “why” helps you respond with empathy instead of hurting.
How Can You Support Your Partner With Care and Respect?
Start a Gentle, Honest Conversation
Ask, don’t accuse. You can say:
“I’ve noticed we haven’t been intimate lately, and I just want to check in. How are you feeling?”
This opens space for honesty without pressure or blame.
Listen Without Judgment or Defensiveness
Your partner may feel guilty, embarrassed, or afraid you’ll take it personally. Just listen. Validate their feelings. Avoid turning the conversation into a debate or emotional confrontation.
Focus on Emotional Intimacy First
Intimacy is not just sex. Try rebuilding closeness through:
- Long hugs and soft touches
- Late-night conversations
- Holding hands, cuddling, eye contact
- Spending quality time without distractions
When emotional safety grows, desire often follows naturally.
Encourage Professional Help — Together if Possible
Instead of saying “You need help,” try “Maybe we can talk to someone together.”
A psychologist or sex therapist can help uncover emotional blocks, unresolved conflict, or deeper health concerns. In Australia, platforms like CSM Manila offer confidential online counselling so couples can get help without stigma or awkward clinic visits.
How Do You Take Care of Yourself in This Situation?
Supporting someone you love doesn’t mean ignoring your own needs. Here’s how to protect your emotional wellbeing:
- Acknowledge your feelings — Hurt, confusion, and frustration are normal.
- Avoid keeping silent — Bottling up emotions breeds resentment.
- Set healthy boundaries — You can be supportive without sacrificing your self-esteem.
- Seek your own support — Talking to a therapist can help you navigate rejection, insecurity, and restore confidence.
When Should You Suggest Getting Help?
Consider professional support if low libido is causing:
- Ongoing distance or arguments
- Avoidance of physical affection
- Emotional withdrawal or sadness
- Feelings of rejection or loneliness in the relationship
CSM Manila offers online therapy where both individuals and couples can work through intimacy concerns from home, with qualified Australian psychologists.
Takeaway
Low libido is not a reflection of your worth or how much your partner loves you. It is often a response to stress, health changes, hormones, or emotional burnout. With empathy, communication, and the right support — intimacy can be rebuilt.
Your relationship deserves connection, understanding, and healing. And help is available when you’re ready.